Lockdown Learning!!!
Ever since you are born, the atmosphere at home and atmosphere around us make us the person we are. Many members dwell in the same place but turn out to be different personalities. Same parents, Same food, same upbringing yet there are different characters in the same house. The difference is majorly dependent on the way you have handled the situations. Some part of this nature also comes from previous Karma or else there would have been equanimity all around in all contexts.
My sister would always ask me how I could memorize my chapters so fast whereas she took longer time to do the same. I always asked my brother, how he could play all the outdoor games so well whereas I took time to get hold of it. We were given the same time and same equipment, yet we took up things as per our interest and excelled, respectively. However, some common trends always followed for we as a family. The confidence in all of us is something we have learnt since our childhood. The courage to face the world in whatever circumstances we are. To be able to hide our weakness and present the positive side of our lives. To be less judgmental and a more carefree attitude is what we have imbibed from within.
Today the world is going through a situation which every living soul is facing for the first time (until you are more than 100 years old and have experienced the 1918 Spanish Flu). We are locked inside our houses and the fear of going out is too high. Every where we just pray for each soul to be hale and hearty so that we do not have to step to the entrances of any hospitals where the deadly virus might attack you. We all are trying to take care of each other and be grateful to all those who have been through the tough times and have not given up on their responsibilities and have served selflessly.
Throughout life we have always heard of a world where there must be stress in one’s life, even if your life is simply fine, it will not be fine because you feel that is not normal. Everywhere around someone or the other has a problem and when you look deep into your life and find all is fine, then you create one for yourself because you feel it is abnormal. Psychotically that way, we are with the world. At this time of lockdown, some people are genuinely tired, frustrated and overwhelmed with what is happening, however there are some who are enjoying it but might not admit it as he/she may sound like an alien. But that is how it is. We have a certain personality of being in sync with most of the world and always want to be or wear that poker face in front of them. Deep down when I have got an opportunity for soul searching, I have failed to understand myself completely. All this while, I thought I knew everything about me and what I want, but the reality is that I know exactly what people want out of me and I excel at giving that. I have my preconceived notions and they are so strong that I always enter an argumentative state rather than being a good listener and understanding the viewpoint of others. Just because you have read a little more in life does not certify that the level of wisdom is higher in you. Wisdom comes with a lot of analysis and a true understanding of the subject. I have devoted a major part of my life in reading a lot but when it comes to application, we terribly fail or rather I have failed. Why so? Have we done it to just add it to our resume or for the real love of it? With every bit of knowledge that you take in, it helps you make decision wiser and thoughtful and the same should reflect in your attitude.
Today when I sit back and think, even though I have been a strong headed person, the level at which something influences me is way too high. And that is ,when I lose the sight of what is practical and applicable for me ,to getting carried away by a thought which somewhere makes sense but not as much, to blindly go by it. Any bad news or depressing facts tend to hit me as though I have walked in their shoes. The level of effect that these incidents have in me does not just last a day or 2 but for months to come. I always thought of ignoring it and not even coming close to it, but it is not possible until I am living in a den, aloof from the whole world. Where comes the good also comes the bad. It happened once, happened twice and I kept it within, thinking it is a temporary phase and it shall go away. But sometimes it took worst of turns when it started affecting my physical body. But as it came secretly, I wanted to waive it off secretly. And I was able to do with some talking out. But recurrence of such events makes you irritable. The worst part is when you keep looking for reasons “WHY” and lose the focus of treatment that is “HOW”. All this while, like I mentioned, everything in me to be perfect, I was wrong because it was not so. I have always learnt in Jainism, as a subject to have a neutral attitude in life because extreme emotions at the end of it is, never permanently is satisfying whereas a neutral attitude takes you long way emotionally. Having said that it is the most difficult to achieve.
Some notions in the head are so strong that if you listen or see anything against that notion, it backfires your emotional quotient and makes you think in an undesired direction. The situation of accepting the story the way it is, fails. You tend to go into an analysis mode which is not required. Rather the whole key as per my understanding is to “LET IT BE”. Having an open mind and accepting that anything adverse can happen is the way to stay unaffected. We need not look for the answers for all “WHY” in our lives. And if we are Ok with things that are within our reach than that shall bring peace within. We are all looking for eternal peace and happiness and as humans all have different problems, the idea is to identify your weakness and make it your strength. The next step is to accept it. This lockdown has made me go into an acceptance mode. For things that you rebel, you realise you are losing the real sight of the situation because you just do not want to accept. And the fact is that if you accept and “LET IT BE” – take it the way it is and go with the flow, the level of respect for yourself increases. The power of appreciating others increases and that way you can spread happiness because you are at peace with yourself.
Lockdown Learning!!!
Ever since you are born, the atmosphere at home and atmosphere around us make us the person we are. Many members dwell in the same place but turn out to be different personalities. Same parents, Same food, same upbringing yet there are different characters in the same house. The difference is majorly dependent on the way you have handled the situations. Some part of this nature also comes from previous Karma or else there would have been equanimity all around in all contexts.
My sister would always ask me how I could memorize my chapters so fast whereas she took longer time to do the same. I always asked my brother, how he could play all the outdoor games so well whereas I took time to get hold of it. We were given the same time and same equipment, yet we took up things as per our interest and excelled, respectively. However, some common trends always followed for we as a family. The confidence in all of us is something we have learnt since our childhood. The courage to face the world in whatever circumstances we are. To be able to hide our weakness and present the positive side of our lives. To be less judgmental and a more carefree attitude is what we have imbibed from within.
Today the world is going through a situation which every living soul is facing for the first time (until you are more than 100 years old and have experienced the 1918 Spanish Flu). We are locked inside our houses and the fear of going out is too high. Every where we just pray for each soul to be hale and hearty so that we do not have to step to the entrances of any hospitals where the deadly virus might attack you. We all are trying to take care of each other and be grateful to all those who have been through the tough times and have not given up on their responsibilities and have served selflessly.
Throughout life we have always heard of a world where there must be stress in one’s life, even if your life is simply fine, it will not be fine because you feel that is not normal. Everywhere around someone or the other has a problem and when you look deep into your life and find all is fine, then you create one for yourself because you feel it is abnormal. Psychotically that way, we are with the world. At this time of lockdown, some people are genuinely tired, frustrated and overwhelmed with what is happening, however there are some who are enjoying it but might not admit it as he/she may sound like an alien. But that is how it is. We have a certain personality of being in sync with most of the world and always want to be or wear that poker face in front of them. Deep down when I have got an opportunity for soul searching, I have failed to understand myself completely. All this while, I thought I knew everything about me and what I want, but the reality is that I know exactly what people want out of me and I excel at giving that. I have my preconceived notions and they are so strong that I always enter an argumentative state rather than being a good listener and understanding the viewpoint of others. Just because you have read a little more in life does not certify that the level of wisdom is higher in you. Wisdom comes with a lot of analysis and a true understanding of the subject. I have devoted a major part of my life in reading a lot but when it comes to application, we terribly fail or rather I have failed. Why so? Have we done it to just add it to our resume or for the real love of it? With every bit of knowledge that you take in, it helps you make decision wiser and thoughtful and the same should reflect in your attitude.
Today when I sit back and think, even though I have been a strong headed person, the level at which something influences me is way too high. And that is ,when I lose the sight of what is practical and applicable for me ,to getting carried away by a thought which somewhere makes sense but not as much, to blindly go by it. Any bad news or depressing facts tend to hit me as though I have walked in their shoes. The level of effect that these incidents have in me does not just last a day or 2 but for months to come. I always thought of ignoring it and not even coming close to it, but it is not possible until I am living in a den, aloof from the whole world. Where comes the good also comes the bad. It happened once, happened twice and I kept it within, thinking it is a temporary phase and it shall go away. But sometimes it took worst of turns when it started affecting my physical body. But as it came secretly, I wanted to waive it off secretly. And I was able to do with some talking out. But recurrence of such events makes you irritable. The worst part is when you keep looking for reasons “WHY” and lose the focus of treatment that is “HOW”. All this while, like I mentioned, everything in me to be perfect, I was wrong because it was not so. I have always learnt in Jainism, as a subject to have a neutral attitude in life because extreme emotions at the end of it is, never permanently is satisfying whereas a neutral attitude takes you long way emotionally. Having said that it is the most difficult to achieve.
Some notions in the head are so strong that if you listen or see anything against that notion, it backfires your emotional quotient and makes you think in an undesired direction. The situation of accepting the story the way it is, fails. You tend to go into an analysis mode which is not required. Rather the whole key as per my understanding is to “LET IT BE”. Having an open mind and accepting that anything adverse can happen is the way to stay unaffected. We need not look for the answers for all “WHY” in our lives. And if we are Ok with things that are within our reach than that shall bring peace within. We are all looking for eternal peace and happiness and as humans all have different problems, the idea is to identify your weakness and make it your strength. The next step is to accept it. This lockdown has made me go into an acceptance mode. For things that you rebel, you realise you are losing the real sight of the situation because you just do not want to accept. And the fact is that if you accept and “LET IT BE” – take it the way it is and go with the flow, the level of respect for yourself increases. The power of appreciating others increases and that way you can spread happiness because you are at peace with yourself!!!
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